April 27, 2019
(Here is the archive of my relationship couplets, that I promised to make. Enjoy!)
something to fear:
That aren’t really there.
none can ye afford;
Lest you desire to be visited
In a psychiatric ward.
though you may not quite agree:
“It’s better to be single
than married unhappily.”
Till you know what you need;
And you’re willing to work for it
with five times less speed.
Something must be wrong;
The best part comes first(?),
and they don’t last too long…
of hireling pastors
Who are counselling persons
into marital disasters.
will with fantasy entice;
But they won’t live with the consequences
of their foolish advice.
for long life and satisfaction;
But your criteria for choosing
must be more than mere attraction!
there’s no need to worry;
I’ll compile them in a blog post
for their posterity. 🙂 )
then they fly away;
Relationships based on attraction
tend to end the same way.
to love your enemies;
But He didn’t say marry them,
so don’t do that, please.
lest they both agree”
Good relationship counsel
found in Amos 3:3.
and this you should keep:
“Only that which was sown
is what you can reap.”
Can’t expect a great marriage…
but rather, torment.
in a potential partner, Uncle Brent?”
Good question, my young friend:
Look for someone who’s content.
The right stage for ethics;
Just more wonderful counsel
found in 1 Timothy 6:6.
I did enjoy my own;
But marriage isn’t for children…
they should leave it alone.
Yes, kudos to them.
For they’re the ones solving
the relationship problem.
Some say: “No… makes no sense.”
But you can’t knock the recipe
using faulty ingredients.
A dozen for a dime;
Unless you are a wholesome mate
You’d better take your time.
In the forest I would expect green;
But if I see red flags in relationships,
I’m ‘excepting’ myself from the scene. 😀
And yes, some do have a sting;
Which do you prefer though: hard sayings now,
Or harder times after the wedding?
Quite healthy… tastes good, to the seed.
Mango season is coming soon!
Ok… back to our regular read.
About “having my best life now”…
Do you see prosperous relationships when you look around?
This should raise an eyebrow…
Ancient knowledge can provide a good template;
How about some time-tested values that work?
Nah, some just prefer to wing it…
There are false preachers at every nook;
They’ll tell you the world, all you want to hear!
Just enough for a sale of their book.
a laptop or even a mouse;
No problem with that. But where does it go
when it’s time for choosing a good spouse?
They’re tough, but solid through and through;
It’s amazing: so much bogus criteria exists.
Are we waiting for science to “research” that too?
No matter how friendly or nice,
Where they encourage young persons to get married
Without giving good examples or advice.
Should I go about twenty more?
‘Cause I’ve only just scratched the surface,
And there’s plenty munition in store.
when most aspects of his life were in order;
Because we’ve ignored the wisdom of that
we have marriages in chaos and disorder.
The solemnity of a marriage vow.
If people truly understood what it means
far fewer would be making them now.
Good vow-making principles are found there;
In short: Don’t make promises you’re not able to keep!
Excuses aren’t worth anything here.
patience, a potential great mom…
If parents didn’t plant those values,
Where will you be getting them from?
responsibilities – he won’t shirk;
If he had no good role models,
How exactly do you expect this to work?
Here’s a test – it’s one-of-a-kind!
Ask yourself: “Can I live with this person,
if I unfortunately became blind?”
Many seemingly under a curse;
When faced with an important decision,
They chose “forward” instead of “reverse”.
is a strategy that doesn’t work well;
Many may not be able to suspect…
But you cannot get rid of the smell.
seem to be a worldwide trend.
A low-cost wedding and a prosperous marriage,
won’t that be more prudent in the end?
Christ loved the church…”
This is the best spiritual plan;
Have to die to yourself, before you die for someone,
And this most just don’t understand.
Can you distinguish the two?
Well in one, imagination answers
all the questions for you.
it will scratch up your mouth;
Wed an unripe partner
and things soon will go South…
Giving marital fantasies wild;
Then after the wedding, they go radio silent
When they realize that they married a child.
Here’s one on which to chew:
A person who lies to him/herself
Can’t tell the truth to you.
Much energy they waste;
Instead maximize your singleness;
When ready, move with haste.
and from these we must decidedly shift;
Lest you end up in marital drudgery:
it’s a terrible burden to lift.
They’re more comedic than earlier years;
And until they add back the true gospel,
I’ll be surely subtracting my ears.
I never knew its name;
It seems she chose the single life,
and avoided the divorce game.
What causeth thee to fall?
Hope not a bad marriage, my dear egg,
That’d be the worst of all.
A pocket full of truth…
Don’t make foolish mistakes as
you trod the road of youth.
One straw, one sticks, one brick;
But if you build a house with lies
It will fall record-quick.
They laboureth in vain…”
Still biblical, timeless advice,
Designed to save you pain.
— Psalm 127:1
if it sits there on your shelf;
Go get the wisdom that you need
by reading it yourself.
from what he/she is at the core.
So what you’re really seeing now
Was actually there from before.
I guess no-one will be this blunt;
But we’ve reached a time in earth’s history
Where I ask the hard questions up front.
and of parasites, looking to feed;
Thus preventing much bitter divorces;
For my couplets, there will be no need. 🙂
than seven who can answer with sense.”
Do you think that marriage to such a one
will be without consequence?
— Proverbs 26:16
and a flattering mouth causes ruin.”
The Book of Proverbs has the wisdom we need
Preventing trouble, before we get in.
— Proverbs 26:28
but an enemy’s kisses are insincere.”
So instead of dwelling on external charms,
One should ask: ‘Are there good virtues here?’
— Proverbs 27:6
than to be crooked in one’s ways, though rich.”
If you decide on the wrong path here,
You’ll end up headlong in a ditch.
— Proverbs 28:6
gets more thank than the flatterer.
Whoever robs parents and says ‘That’s not a crime!’
is comrade to the destroyer.”
— Proverbs 28:23, 24
and not by sandy streams;
Likewise, build marriage based on truth,
not fantasies and dreams.
some good advice to follow.
Translation: Don’t buy something you haven’t seen,
And don’t marry someone you don’t know.
they’re scattered everywhere.”
If you want a never-ending winter,
You’ll marry one, my dear.
— Author unknown
to build a house of failure.”
Relationships sustained on these
are headed for disaster.
— American proverb
Strong men create good times,
Good times create weak men,
Weak men create hard times.”
— Author unknown
to a dead end, with spiritual drought.
It may seem ‘fun’ to speed down that road,
But eventually you have to walk out.
a raincoat from the rain;
a godly spouse can protect yourself
from marital stress and pain.
Else when you meet them up again,
they will be multiplied.
Law school for those that magistrate;
But where are the schools for marriages?
Does that explain the high failure rate?
and checkered for car races;
Red flags may be common these days,
but not me, in those spaces…
God gave originally;
But those who multiply instead
end up with seventy-three…
— Genesis 2:24
With this quote I disagree:
It’s either one became a man,
or was stuck in puberty.
Without this you will lose.
Honesty, justice, self-control
and other such virtues.
saw red flags at the start;
Thus one should spot them from afar
And keep oneself apart.
if they travel side-by-side;
And this applies to marriage too
if love is to abide.
Start with eating healthy.
Get wisdom from experienced folks,
And throw out your TV.
One of a deeper hue;
If one has extreme love for him/herself
There’s no love left for you.
Are as useful as styrofoam.
But you’d better judge well the person with whom
You share your life and your home.
red muscadine grapes are great!
But red flags? Got no time for that…
I remove them from my plate.
is a red flag: don’t ignore;
For future actions are generally based
on what was done before.
is someone to avoid;
Best get off that see-saw early
Lest you become a schizoid.
poems are directed;
Get wisdom… get knowledge…
and keep you heart guarded.
is a cause for disease today;
Long-term marriage based on short-term feelings
is a cause for heart decay.
in modern society;
and many are going undiagnosed,
but can threaten your sanity.
can open blinded eyes:
“At fault was my own fantasies,
bolstered by cute white lies.”
and make amends for wrong;
Avoid this red flag like a plague,
and sing a happier song. 🙂
“Put your marital dreams on a shelf.
First get virtues that make for a capable spouse,
and a better understanding of yourself.”
they appreciate with time;
Just get a friend who possesses these…
it will change your paradigm.
rather gauge as a long-term friend,
For when beauty, strength and charm depart,
A friendship you will have in the end.
Give them good stratagems:
Do not conjoin yourself with one
with chronic “I”-problems.
to show one disrespect;
And where it rears its ugly head,
is potential shipwreck.
one conjoins with a stranger:
A life if dread, regret, remorse…
and constant fear of danger.
it is a constant struggle;
But mediocre thinking makes
it much harder to juggle.
in which they can confide;
Others a looking for a horse,
One on which they can ride.
You only have one life.
Your future could be bright or dark
by your choice of a wife.
here’s another flag to shun:
Unwillingness to apologize
for wrongs that have been done.
To give them a fighting chance?
They need someone who can lead them,
One to shake them from their trance.
I hope they’ve shared insight;
Good relationships are determined
by choices sound and right.